“I prefer cake”. This is a common statement for anyone who identifies on the spectrum of asexuality, a comparison in which asexuals claim that eating a cake is more interesting than having sex. The subject gained prominence in the media in 2020, after a participant in Big Brother Brazil declared himself asexual.
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The asexual prefix “a” is used for denial and indicates that there is no such thing as sexual attraction. However, it is not synonymous with celibacy, abstinence or hormonal problems. To learn more about the subject, we talked to the psychologist Jackeline Corrêa (CRP 08/22340). Check out all the details.
What is asexuality
Asexuality is a sexual orientation, also called by the acronym ACE. Be careful not to use the term asexual, which means the absence of sexual organs. According to the psychologist, “asexual people do not feel, or feel in low intensity, interest in sexual relations – regardless of the gender of the chosen partnership. However, this lack of desire does not mean that the asexual does not love, does not want to relate, does not get involved with another person, or other people. ”
Types of asexuality
- Aromatic: people who do not feel sexual or romantic attraction. They have no interest or need for a loving relationship.
- Demirromantic: people who need a strong emotional bond with others to feel affective attraction.
- Romantic: are those who feel romantic attraction to other people. They can be heterromantic, birromantic, homorromantic or panromantic.
- Demisexual: people who feel sexual attraction to others, when they create a strong emotional bond.
- Gray-A: people who experience sexual attraction occasionally. They identify themselves in an area between asexuality and sexuality.
Jackeline points out that asexuals can have sex. She tells us that “an illustrative way to understand is to imagine a ruler from 0 to 10 where 0 is the complete absence of sexual attraction and 10 the presence of sexual attraction. Asexual people can identify themselves from number 0 to number 9. Therefore, it is not correct to say that asexual people will not have sex at some points in their life. ”
7 facts and myths about asexuality
Although asexuality is being more widely publicized and talked about openly, there are still doubts on the subject. We separated the main myths and facts related to sexual orientation, check it out.
- Sex is not essential for the asexual: Fact. For asexual people, there are other pleasures in the relationship of two. Some don’t want to have sex, others will experience it occasionally. According to the psychologist: “For many asexual people, the most pleasant time with your partnership is to laugh together, walk in the park, watch a movie with popcorn, have dinner in a cozy restaurant …”
- Asexuality is a hormonal problem: Myth. Asexuals may have hormonal problems, but the lack of sexual attraction is unrelated to that.
- Asexuality is not celibacy: Fact. Celibacy is a personal choice to save for someone or a certain occasion, so sexual desire is repressed.
- Every asexual suffered a trauma: Myth. People who have suffered sexual trauma continue to have a desire, but repress it out of fear. Asexuals do not see sex as essential, but they may never have had sex and their sexual orientation is not linked to past trauma.
- Asexuals are able to have physiological responses to the sexual act: Fact. Sex-favorable asexuals can have sexual experiences and experience orgasms and other physiological responses.
- A person is only asexual because he has never tried sex or did not find the right person: Myth. Some asexuals have sex occasionally, while others have experimented and did not find the experience relevant.
- Asexual people may face situations of psychological distress due to lack of recognition and respect: Fact. Due to the lack of knowledge on the subject, some people invalidate asexuality, classifying sexual orientation as a disease. For Jackeline, “Therapeutic work for self-knowledge and empowerment is recommended.”
These are some of the facts and myths about asexuality. Psychologist Jackeline still leaves an important message: “No qualified mental health professional can suggest or impose that asexual people should“ define themselves ”in some other sexual orientation such as heterosexuality or homosexuality. If a professional suggests something like this, report it! ”
Experiences with asexuality
We selected four videos with women’s reports on the discovery of asexuality. Check out.
What is it like to be asexual
Thalita Piacentini explains a little about asexuality and tells us about her relationship with her husband. She also answers a number of questions and asks questions about sexual orientation.
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Do you know what demisexuality is?
In this video, blogger Thata explains the differences between demissexulity, asexuality and non-asexuality, in addition to reading reports and experiences of people who went through the process of recognition and acceptance.
Natasha Rattacasso’s account of her discovery of demisexuality. She even talks about her upbringing, with more freedom to talk about sex and sexuality. So it shows that wanting to have sex only with someone with whom you have a strong bond is not just a matter of choice.
How is dating a demisexual
YouTuber brought her boyfriend to answer questions about demisexuality and explain what the couple’s relationship is like.
As you can see, asexuality is a sexual orientation. If you identify yourself as asexual, feel free to talk about it. In the words of psychologist Jackeline: “No one will be able to tell you how to love, only you.” Now, enjoy and also read our article about what a sapiosexual is, the person who is attracted to intelligence.